Comments on: I slept while my mother died http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/ I have opinions. I am from Africa. I live here now. I blog. Tue, 08 May 2012 20:48:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: sam http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-6690 Tue, 30 Nov 2010 14:37:41 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-6690 My mum sucide/murder (unknown) recently. i dont know what to say…. only pray.Amen

]]> By: Nokuphiwa Dlamini http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-6633 Sat, 23 Oct 2010 23:57:07 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-6633 My mother passed away 12 years ago, and there has never been a day that went by without me thinking of her.

She was strong, elegant, wise beyond her years. She was 42 when she died and loved her childen to pieces.

She came from a small rural village in KwaZulu Natal called Indwendwe and was never formally educated but still valued education above everything else. She sacrificed the family’s well being by taking me to a good boarding school which was way too expensive for us but was nevertheless the best school in my township.

I consequently finished high school and went to varsity.

She died in my second year of varsity.
I later finished my degree and got a job and started my own company.

I salute you mom, Tozi Thembekile Ngobese
(Dlamini), the best mom i could ever have wished for.

Till we meet again,

Your daughter

Nokuphiwa Goodness Dlamini
I will love you forever.

]]> By: Ravi http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-6479 Sat, 26 Jun 2010 18:14:19 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-6479 oh man! I can so much understand your pain and suffering, not because something similar happened with me, but I know something sort of similar is also waiting to happening with my parents (we don’t have guns at home). But they suffer a lot emotionally, every single day, every single hour, ever since I left home after high school, some 12 years back for my studies. Then it was my job, and then I came abroad chasing my love and then something “new” and exciting always draws me further away from home…but all this time while I flew higher and farther, there always remains a sense of guilt deep inside, because I know my parents wait for me to return home one day, and I do not know when my desire to fly farther away satiates…

]]> By: A Jay http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-5930 Sat, 26 Sep 2009 00:33:42 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-5930 Your story is so captivating and intensively felt. Remembering all these stories and scenarios and putting them down in words with such a fine and authentic manner, not living out the different situations of happiness, sadness, love and grief attached to the numerous lifely occasions you decided to allow us have a piece of yor life crowns the episode of a life deeply savoured and a time ever to appreciate. A loss can change a life, but accepting this loss is giving oneself and life the posibility to reach other horizons and get the full measure of existence. Your dolefulness I share, your sincerity to yourself I dignify, Your writing I acclaim, Your promise to yourself and wife I honour, Your courage I salute, Your view of life I embrace, your talent I hail. Thank you for disseminating and boosting me personally to move on. Thank you for your time. Thanks to all for actively participating

]]> By: The Question… « Angry African on the Loose™ http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3845 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 16:26:12 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3845 [...] My poor mother was just sitting there half in shock as always. Every now and again trying to calm us down. But she knew it was a losing battle. I was never going to keep quiet. Not anymore. And it gave me a chance to fight him on every issues that I ever thought he was wrong about – from Apartheid to my mother. So once I started I would never let go. And he egged me on by pushing one button after the other. We were predictable… [...]

]]> By: The Angel Maker has passed away… « Angry African on the Loose™ http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3806 Wed, 31 Dec 2008 18:04:11 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3806 [...] who knows me will tell you I was a real mommy’s boy. I loved my mother more than you can think. I lived for only her for most of my younger life. And then she left me to [...]

]]> By: YVETTE H http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3562 Sun, 07 Dec 2008 06:32:42 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3562 sORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR LOSS,, MY MOM DIES AS I SLEPT AS WELL BUT INSTEAD I FOUND HER THERE OFF THE BED THAT MORNING I AM 22 AND I JUST UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU FEEL,,,

]]> By: Petite Fille http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3511 Sun, 30 Nov 2008 15:18:18 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3511 Poignant. I cried.

Your wife is a wise lady. You will never know, all that matters is the love you shared.

Alex, if you visit see here again, my thoughts are with you in these tough times. Wish you courage.

]]> By: Alex http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3244 Sun, 09 Nov 2008 03:12:16 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-3244 I am very sorry for your loss. unlike most people, i know how you feel. I am a 14 year old boy who lives in derry nh and my mom killed herself the other night by overdosing on vicodin and dying in her sleep by cause of apnea and eventual cardiac arrest. I went to wake her up the next day and she was dead. Thank you for sharing the story because It described how i feel. It meant a lot to me

]]> By: Roz Rayner-Rix http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-1304 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 14:51:48 +0000 http://angryafrican.net/2008/03/08/an-accidental-activist-i-slept-while-my-mother-died/#comment-1304 Very moving for me to read that, you see i am a pensioner/mum in a similar position. I have been left alone by my husband. My children live a great distance away, each in opposite directions. I have no friends in the town I am in. I moved here through loyalty to the husband that left me. I suffer from depression and often contemplate suicide.

However the one thing that stops me is that I simply cannot be so selfish, even though I don’t see much of anyone, my children have not been here to visit at all this year, yet I love them deeply. I have made one visit to each. I do not have a car and live on benefits.

When someone commits suicide they are taking their own life and leaving everyone else to take the blame and try to pick up the pieces of their own lives.

Thank you for sharing your experience, please try to forgive your mother for her untimely departure and the burden she has left you to deal with.

No need for you to sleep any more.

Roz X

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