Every single day we walk past them. The shadow people. The people we don’t see because we don’t want to see. They are the great unseen. The great unclean. No meaning in a world moving at 1,000 mph. To slow to keep up. They fell off the train and never got back on. Because we are moving too fast to stop and pick them up. And we just couldn’t be bothered either.
Like characters from a George A. Romero movie. Zombies. Dead on their feet. But not like a George A. Romero movie. Because we still go and watch his zombies. We don’t watch these shadow people anymore. We make a point of looking past them. Over them. Through them. Those beggars hanging out at the edges of our vision. Just far enough for us to ignore. But just close enough to be in our way.
Those beggars in our way. Not just in the way of our commute to work or stroll through town. No. In the way of how we want to see life and live life. We try everything to ignore them. We wear our sunglasses. We look across the street as if we are looking for something. We dig into our pockets as if trying to find something. We walk with the best pensive look we can come up with. We make as if we are talking on our mobile phones. Anything. Anything to make them disappear. Or not look at us.
We want them to be invisible. We want to be invincible. They remind us of how close we are to being nothing. Just one unlucky break away from falling of our speeding train. We try hard to make them go away. To make them invisible. Like glass. But they are not glass. They are a mirror. Holding it up for us to see. To see where we could be as individuals. And to show us where we are as a community.
We will do anything to not help them out. Because it is “bad” for them. It doesn’t “help” them get out of their “situation”. So say the experts. Thanks Laura from A smoother pebble for reminding me that maybe we walk past these shadows a little too fast. That maybe we don’t stop often enough to just look them in the eyes and remind them and us we are not so different from each other. That kindness does not always have to have strings attached. That people are just people. No matter what they look like or what they smell like.
Maybe I should stop and give them a dollar. Or maybe I should stop and give them a coffee or sandwich. Maybe I should stop and ask them how they are. Just look them in the eyes and let them know it is okay. That I care more than a dollar. More than money. I care about them. And their lives. A care the same way I care about others. No more, but no less. And maybe I will shake their hands and wave goodbye, have a nice day – and mean it. Remind them and remind me that they are not invisible. They are not shadows. They are invincible. Like me. And they are imperfect and weak. Like me.
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April 24, 2008 at 11:45 pm
Very interesting post. I could see people taking different things from it, hopefully it opens a few eyes.
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April 24, 2008 at 11:56 pm
I am sure you would like this. It is a doco that recently aired on tv here in Australia. It is about homeless youth and heartwrenching. http://www.abc.net.au/tv/oasis/about/watch/watchFilm.htm
April 25, 2008 at 7:59 am
Back in SA there are quite a few organisations that are doing great work helping to get the young kids off the street, into schools and giving them a safe place to sleep. Sadly it is such a huge task.
As you said, is giving a few dollars really the way to help?
I always wonder, if not for a few twists of fate would I be in there situation?
April 25, 2008 at 8:28 am
most people don’t want to see that we are all just one bad check away from the same fate…
April 25, 2008 at 4:21 pm
I saw a photo exhibition once where the artist had taken photos around town and blanked out all of the beggars. So that all you could see was a vague shadow of something in front of the background, where these people were. Sitting against shop windows or walking down the street…
You didn’t notice anything but the street scene unless you looked really closely.
It was a pretty powerful statement.
April 25, 2008 at 4:36 pm
Yeah man! I AGREE… but what do you you do to really CHECK the validity of this people’s status. There are those who are GENUINELY in need and those who are faking it. More work needs to be done. Check out my blog on the subject for further insight. http://www.dijosa.blat.co.za
April 26, 2008 at 8:18 am
A great article – thanks.
“There but for the grace of God go I”
5 years ago I was a successful wealthy man earning in the top 5% of UK salaries. I had 2 houses 3 cars and a 2 kids in private school. Surfing in tropical locations and skiiing every winter in the Alps. I was cruising through life and enjoying every minute. Nothing could go wrong.
Then out of the blue it all started to unravel:-
My Dad died at 52 – unknown causes, I got made redundant, my brother developed paraniod schizophrenia, my mum locked herself away and wouldnt see anyone and still wont, my tennants trashed my rented house which meant no rental income, no salary, 2 mortgages, a £30k refurb bill, school fees and large debts on credit cards .The banks jumped on me like a ton of bricks and hit me with over £1000 of charges in one month. They tried to take everything from me including my house. The dog died at christmas of tetanus only 2 years old.
Eventually, I cracked under the strain and I sprialed into depression. Im not on the streets yet but I know its only a small step away. Its all to easy to end up just like them.
When things start going wrong you find out just how hostile our society really is to the weak and needy. Everyone wants to look the other way. There are very few “Good Samaritans” these days.
If I didnt have 2 kids to think about I would have taken the easy way out long ago. I admire and respect that these people choose to go on in hopeless circumstances in a world that despises them.
We don’t look because we are scared shitless. We dont want to see that our foundations are built on sand. We could and may still yet end up just the same.
I think this is closely linked to an article I posted on my site yesterday about how we measure worth. These people have nothing and so with our current vlaue system they arent worth anyhting to us. http://saveourspecies.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/real_value/
April 26, 2008 at 12:10 pm
This brought to mind a poem I wrote April of last year on contemplation of leaving NY and all the homeless I encountered routinely there.
http://wonderlandornot.net/2007/04/06/national-poetry-month-write-a-poem-read-a-poem/
I think we have to remember from where most of these people came, and that at any time each and every one of us has a chance of becoming one of “them”. This in turn helps them become us and us them.
April 26, 2008 at 12:42 pm
I don’t really worry about whether they are really in need or not. I’ll give someone a buck or two just because even if they drink it up, buy a meal, or whatever with it, it will make their otherwise miserable and dangerous life a little bight brighter. I’m not God and I’m not their keeper. So why should I care anyway whether they spend it the way I think they should? A buck won’t change their lives, anyway.
There are some I would have no sympathy for if I could peer into their lives, but for the most part, hopelessness rules the lives of the homeless. Why not give someone a tiny, temporary lift without any high ‘n mighty I’m holier then thou thinking. Just plain giving just to do it.
Remember, it’s only a buck or two, not like you’re financing the Louvre or anything…
I don’t ascribe to the theory that being poor and homeless is a choice. I’ve been close enough to it to know it ain’t necessarily true. That sort of thinking is a device to convince oneself that one is superior to them. They aren’t life, they’re wildlife. Don’t feed the wildlife or they will keep coming back for more.
It’s a sad thing that our country has become, classwise, closer to India than the embodiment of the American Dream than at any time in the last 80 years. So many Americans hate other Americans for various reasons and this is yet one more excuse to vent real venom.
It’s also an out for those Hitleresque social Darwinists. Now THERE’s a group of individuals the world can do without…
April 27, 2008 at 3:56 pm
@For Prez ’24 – I hope it will. At least to walk a bit slower the next time they pass a beggar. Maybe it’ll come back as a memory then.
@Kelli – I’ll watch! Even though it is Aussie! If it is half as good as the cricket team…
@Saffer – Yes, a few groups doing great work in South Africa. Funny that little is done on a global level though?
@a broad – Many don’t see that though hey?
@Laura – Would love to see those photo’s. It’s how people see them hey.
@Joseph Magobe – It is difficult to know their status. But sometimes you can see it in the eyes though. But we don’t stop to look into their eyes. Maybe scared we will see ourselves in there.
@Visionary – Oh man. See how close we all are? Read your blog. Keep it going. It goes to the right spot.
@Cooper – As always. Your stuff is an absolute pleasure to read!
@Keven Bennett – Wise words again my friend. It doesn’t hurt to give a little. And true about America. People starting to look down at others. Class is creeping up too fast.