Angry African on the Loose

Real men are from M.A.R.S.

April 29, 2008 · 6 Comments

It’s just sick. Sick, sick, sick. Just last week I wrote how the women of this world are being raped and abused. How it happens each and every day. All over the world. By us men. Or people who would call themselves men. And now this. How sick can men get? How low can we go. We hit the bottom of the barrel and manage to go to a new low that is even more unimaginable. Yes, I am talking about the man from Austria.

I have been following this story since it “broke” late last week. I won’t go into details. That’s too hard. Follow the link above and search around a bit. But here’s the basics…

Elizabeth Fritzl was first raped and abused by her dad, Josef Fritzl, when she was 11 years old. And it continued from there. Regularly. Again. And again. And again. And Josef was planning and working on how to “institutionalize” this rape and abuse - while he was raping his daughter. So he build a dungeon in the basement. With soundproof rooms, electronic coded locks, no sunlight, a homemade kitchen, a makeshift toilet and a bedroom for rape and nightmares - 650 square feet of horror. Then he lured his daughter to the basement when she was 18 years old. And drugged and handcuffed her to subdue her. And kept her in the dungeon.

The rape and abuse got its own special place. A dungeon below the house. No one could hear the screams. No one could see the rape. And it went on and on. Rape after rape. For 24 years. Twenty-four years. 24 years.

You can read the rest. How he fathered 7 children with his raping of his daughter. How one died after a few days because of neglect. How he burned the body outside. How he forced his daughter to write letters saying she joined a sect. How he “adopted” a few of these kids. How some of them never saw daylight - ever. How his wife never knew about anything. How… how..

You fucking cowardly bastard, may you fucking rot in hell. I would kill him myself if I had a chance. I would torture him slowly so he could feel the pain for 24 fucking years.

But that’s the problem, isn’t it? That’s what us men want to do. Take the bastards and kill them. Take our anger out on them. Tear them apart. Shoot them. Strangle them. Torture them. Kill them. Because it will make us feel better. Because we with our shallow emotions don’t know how to talk to our wives or girlfriends or girl friends or daughters. I am not blaming us. I am just saying how it is. We are raw in our emotions. But don’t know how to talk about it. We don’t know how to talk about it. And we don’t know how to prevent it. But I know it hurts men. Men who don’t rape. The silent majority.

We want to say something. But we don’t know how to start. Because we want to make things better. It is just so in our bones and blood - to fix things. And we think and hope and pray that we can fix this by taking it out on the rapists. By killing them. We hope and pray that by taking it out on them our women will somehow feel better. Will somehow feel whole again. Will somehow trust us again. And love us. And applaud us for showing how much we care. Will look at us in awe for showing our strength. Anything that will make us not talk about it. Sorry guys. It just won’t do.

I don’t know the answers. I don’t even know the bloody questions. But maybe we can start small. Maybe we can start by doing just one little thing to start off with. Let’s form M.A.R.S. - Men Against Rape Society. Yes, Men are from M.A.R.S.

But I am going to need your help here. I don’t know what the rules should be. I don’t know what we can do. All I know is that I don’t want to do nothing. So help me here. I don’t want to be quiet anymore.

Look, I am not looking for some weird groups of touchy-feely guys. I am no metrosexual. I am a sport loving, beer drinking, cigarette smoking, ball scratching kinda guy. I am not that “in touch” with my feelings. I am just a regular guy who says no more. I say fuck you rapists. You are not men. I will still strangle you if I get hold of you. That will make me feel better. But I also want to do something to stop it. Stop rape. And I want to do something to show the women of this world that we can be there for them. Somehow be someone they can rely on for support when they are raped. Whatever that means. An ear, a shoulder, a hug - whatever they need (on their terms) from us. So I have no strict rules on this. Anyone welcome. Let’s just follow a few basic rules we can abide by. Rules for M.A.R.S. I’ll give it a first go.

1. Real men don’t rape.

2. Real men don’t have friends who rape.

3. Real men speak out against rape.

4. Real men teach their sons not to rape but to respect and love.

5. Real men listen and talk to their wives and daughters about rape.

6. Real men support and talk to all women who have been raped - on their terms.

7. Real men don’t keep quiet any longer.

Okay, that’s a start. A bad one, but at least a start. Let’s fill in the gaps. Let’s try and narrow it down to just five rules for M.A.R.S. Or increase it to ten (I like the metric system!) Let’s tell our friends. Let’s tell our brothers. Let’s tell our sons. Let’s start a sign-up. (How, anyone got an idea?) Let’s start a movement. Women of the world - we will need you for this. Help us do something. Men, start acting. Tell me what we will need to do. Let’s throw a pebble and see what happens. But let’s not do nothing and say nothing.

Let’s be from M.A.R.S.

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6 responses so far ↓

  • you don't say... // April 29, 2008 at 9:05 pm

    another great post!
    - I’ll take a stab at helping you out by telling you what I would do - I’m not a pro at this type of thing, but you can encourage us to pass a link to this around (I will).
    -Maybe post on the boston craigslist community page and see if there are other men interested?
    - Contact your congressional representatives and see if they have any such programs or would be interested in connecting you to people who could help you launch MARS?
    - Maybe also contact your state senators?
    - College campus women’s departments may be helpful. At Tufts there was a group called Tufts Men Against Violence. You could try and get support from these college groups.
    - Define an agenda to help you in your pitch. This post is a start - what would be your immediate goals? Short term goals, long term goals?
    - Create a video calling for men who want to join, upload to youtube, post the link, and we - your readers - will do the rest.
    - Get on Digg and get as many ppl as you know to digg your post and get other ppl to digg your post
    Let me know what you think of those ideas. I hope that helps a little.

  • Michelle // April 30, 2008 at 12:39 am

    Yes, I’m with you. Charlize Theron did an ad campaign here with the theme “Real Men Don’t Rape”, I don’t know if you ever saw it?

    I’m in the fledgling stages of putting together an empowerment campaign for women… the African perspective. At grass roots, African culture has revered women - I’m not talking modern day feminism, but within the constraints of what the woman’s role was in society, that of nurturer - this has somehow been eradicated and it has moved beyond even disrespect, possibly to disdain. If there were organisations that brought awareness to the fact that there are indeed men who love and respect women and abhor what is happening, that have the courage to put these thoughts into words and voice their objections, it would go a long way toward helping women feel empowered, knowing that their voices do not stand alone.

    Social networking is a powerful tool. I was just reading something about the internet being used for activism, and that being a measure of it’s success, so my suggestion is that you put the idea out in ever widening circles - perhaps a seperate blog?

    The ideas put forward by You Don’t Say are constructive and practical - begin in your home town (well, home away from home town). Remember, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. If there’s anything I can do, shout. Vasbyt!

  • Vasco Pyjama // April 30, 2008 at 6:21 am

    Thanks for this, big fella. Your post has renewed my faith that there are men who … who… well, who understand.

  • Saffer // April 30, 2008 at 6:46 am

    Sign me up!

  • Turnbaby // April 30, 2008 at 3:46 pm

    Very powerful and again I applaud you.

    I think you will find Figleaf at http://realadultsex.com an interesting read.

  • angryafrican // April 30, 2008 at 8:39 pm

    @you don’t say… - Thanks! Good advice. I am slightly more restricted because I am not American. But I hope we can get this started slowly but surely. Just get men to speak out.

    @Michelle - Thanks. And that’s exactly what I think men should do. Not try to lead on it. But show that men are there standing next to women. And behind them in support when needed.

    @Vasco Pyjama - You have a pretty special one as well. In Africa yet?

    @Saffer - I knew you would be there! Thanks man. Making South Africans proud!

    @Turnbaby - Thanks for the link. Very, very good. I think I’ll reach out and see if there isn’t something we can do jointly.

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