It's a fight for my freedom to love...
I am pissed. Really pissed. I can’t believe that another piece of bigotry was allowed to be written into law. By those pseudo liberals from California. Actually, those pseudo people from California. No Californification for you then.
I mean really. Get off it. Let people love who they want to love. Why can’t you live with that? Why can’t two people who love not marry each other? Sorry. I guess you don’t believe in a happy marriage and would rather continue with the “woman barefoot in the kitchen” style fake love marriage you have. How about those pregnant teenagers then hey? Or the wife beating? Like the child abuse going around?
Actually, that is unfair. That can happen to anyone. But my point is that marriage is nothing sacred to protect for a group of men and women partners only. Really. What the hell is so sacred about it? This country gets divorced left right and centre. We have loveless marriages. We have arranged marriages. We have rape in marriage. We have child abuse in marriages. We have all this crap in marriages.
And none of that can be blamed on gays! You stupid… argh! You did that. Not me. And not my friends. You killed marriage. With your stupidity and superiority complex of failure and violence. Dip…
You know what? I love my wife. More than life itself. And I look around me and see very few marriages actually working. And guess what? Those marriages where people actually focus on each other and how much they love each other? They don’t give a damn what you call it or who else are allowed to get married. As long as (i) you don’t f*ck with their marriage and (ii) you have a chance of having the same love as they have. We want people to get married for love because we want to save the idea of being married.
Dammit…
Let my people marry!
Clean your own house. Clean your own church. Clean your own crap before you tell other people what they can or cannot do. This is how we get into trouble each and every bloody time. Someone somewhere deciding that their way is the only way and let’s go plant a bomb / start a war / execute someone / torture a few people / etc. Look inside and fix that you stupid… argh… I promised my wife I won’t swear.
No one is telling you who you should marry. No one is telling you what you should do. So shut the hell up about other people. Okay…
Let’s play this game.
You are not allowed to have a sense of fashion. You are not allowed to be happy. You are not allowed to smile and laugh. You are not allowed to be gay – in the smiling and laughing way I mean. You are not allowed to be flamboyant. You are not allowed to be an actor. You are not allowed to watch a movie with ANY gay actors or characters. You are not allowed to love.
We’ll leave that for us. You have your stinking marriage and put it where the sun don’t shine. You can kill marriages like you have done over the last 1,000 years and more. But you can’t kill love.
Let there be love. Let there be love…
Today I hope that my daughters will one day be gay. This way they stand a better chance of finding true love and see true tolerance in life.
Take your marriage and go flush it down the toilet like you have done since you “owned” it. You are killing it but you can never kill love. That’s what we have to offer. We didn’t plan on killing your holy marriage. You didn’t even know it but we are here to save the concept of marriage. To let two people who love each other make a lifetime commitment to each other. Respect each other. Honor each other. Love each other. Always…
You are flushing away the chance of saving this beautiful practice of marriage. Because you covered your eyes with your blinkers of hate. Well done. I hope you are proud. But not as loud or proud as us.
May God be ashamed of you and what you stand for.
I know I am. And I am bloody “straight”. You are not one of me. You don’t represent me. You don’t represent what my marriage stands for. You never have and never will.
My marriage is one of love. Somehow you just don’t get that.
The right to love. The right to marriage. It’s basic human rights.
It’s simple. You’re stupid.
Now go and leave us alone.
You know what I am really afraid of? That my own marriage and right to love will be next. That this limitation on marriage threatens my marriage. You never know when or where bigots will stop. Their history tells me they won’t stop anywhere we would think they would stop. Guantanamo Bay – they did this. Torture – they did this. Iraq – they did this. It’s always them. Those who look at others and find ways to hate and discriminate. Who forget to love and live first. This fight for my friends to marry the one they love is a fight for my right to stay married to the one I love. And a fight for my daughters to marry someone who will love them the way I love their mother. With no strings attached. Just pure and perfect love. I am fighting for my wife and my daughters. For their happiness. And their life. This fight is my fight. Our fight. A fight for a life of love.
Let there be love.
Dammit. Liberty, justice, freedom and equality for all.
Just add love…
To you bigots out there. Here is a nice little song for you. From the bottom of our hearts…
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To Vanessa, Mark, Randy, Steve and all my friends. I am sorry. I am truly deeply sorry. But I will never give up this fight. Never ever. We beat Apartheid and we’ll beat this crap as well. Remember: Justice, equality, freedom and liberty ALWAYS wins. We are right. We will overcome. We will win. Today is just a little bump in the road. Tomorrow we fight again. We will not be defeated. We might lose a battle but never the war.
May 26, 2009 at 5:11 pm
You got round to this before I even suggested you do so
. I think what you have here is your gut reaction to the bill passing and I agree completely – unbelievable.
Perhaps in a day or two, if you have the time or the will, you shoud do a follow up post wherein you analyse the criterion by which this bill was passed and if that criterion was even legitimate. I think not.
Unbelievable law. Unbelievable society. Unbelievable bill to start off.
Suffice to say, gay people are to the 21st century what the colonised were to the last few. I pray we never need the violence, nor the social upheavel needed to “superficially” dispel hatred the way we had with the civil rights movement and the anti-apartheid movement back home.
May 26, 2009 at 9:00 pm
The courts couldn’t really overturn the voter approved measure at this time.
It would have only led to more legal problems and a delay in the process.
May 27, 2009 at 3:18 am
I agree. Discrimination is discrimination and this is what it is.
May 28, 2009 at 12:38 pm
my heart is just filled with sadness. here we are fighting Bill 44 which our provincial government is about to make law. it allows parents to pull their children out of classes when they don’t agree with the cirriculum. it has come about because parents are distraught that their children are being taught about the theory of evolution. but what the bill is going to do is make our teachers afraid and make our undermine the value of our education in the eyes of other provinces and nations. it is fearful and hateful. and sad. especially when we live in a province that has publicly funded catholic schools. if the argument is that their tax dollars shouldn’t support teaching something they don’t believe in then my argument is the same and we all lose. Sad. sad. sad. our children should be given ALL of the information, entrenched in belief, science, etc. and given the opportunity to rationally choose.
unbelievable. unbelievable that in 2009 proposition 8 was upheld and that our children face censorship. unbelievable. thank you for not giving up the fight.
May 29, 2009 at 2:09 am
Thanks for posting it. What else can you add? Well done!
May 29, 2009 at 9:37 am
Love who you want to love, love is a beautiful thing, regardless of if its between a man and a woman, or a man and a man.
Sad to say but give it time, each generation is less bigoted than the one before it I feel.
June 1, 2009 at 9:37 am
Hi there,
As much as the media wants to make this legislation a “religious” issue, the fact is that a church wedding DOES NOT legalize anyone’s marriage.
The issue is NOT whether or not people can be married in a church! This confusion muddies the water considerably. You have the gays bashing the Christian Conservative for OPPOSING their right to marry.
Christians who do not believe that homosexuality is condoned by God also know that there are plenty of other “sinners” who get married. So that’s NOT the issue either. Those Christians realize that there is NOTHING in the Bible that prohibits marriage among sinners.
Their argument is that the term “marriage” can only be applied to a union between a man and a woman. When asked to define “marriage”, Obama said that it was a convenant between a MAN and a WOMAN.
I think that says a lot about how this fight will end up.
June 4, 2009 at 4:23 am
Sawubona Mfowethu, I could not believe it when I saw it in the news but I must confess that I know too little about it to comment meantingfully. It seems to me that there are 2 distinct issues and I hope the legislation at least deals with them separately. The first issue is the Judeo-Christian definition of marriage and the marriage ceremony and rites in that context. Secondly, and more important for me, is the issue of the consequences of “marriage” such as the property issues, health-care and other benefits that two people who love and live together may wish to share. Now, in most cases as a consequence of marriage, those benefits would follow. Here at home, the court has taken it further and ordered that benefits shall accrue to all individuals in long term relationships. The case involved a Judge who wished to have the benefits of her being a judge to accrue to her partner of many years.
So if the law only prevents gay couples from having their relationships solemnized, it is one issue but if that prevents them from benefiting from all other benefits of heterosexual relationship, then it is completely different and disappointing story.
This to me is a very small step away from ethnic cleansing.
June 7, 2009 at 3:24 am
I have been caught up in life and missed your site so much for the realness and wonderful articles.
I must say though, this is the one subject I cannot agree with you on. Marriage should remain between a man and a woman and that’s that!
Do I discriminate? Well no but I’m also very religious and according to my belief in what God wants, from his children, is not to start revising his wish and rewriting the bible.
You’re asking us to accommodate the gay community by rethinking our belief and that’s not unfair? Come on now, why can’t we stand behind and fight for what we want too – A marriage between a man and a woman.
God bless American!
June 7, 2009 at 8:41 pm
@Tsion – Yeah… I know what you mean BUT… The one area that makes me uncomfortable about the religious aspect of this… Which God? If it is a holy bond given by God then it should exclude ALL religions who do not believe in your God right? So if you are Christian then Jewish, Muslim, etc marriages should not be recognized by the Christian church. If they do recognize it, isn’t it bigotry? For me it isn’t about religion – each church will still decide who they will marry and who they will exclude. Their definition will remain in church. However, the state’s definition of a marriage should not take religion into account as it only deals with what the state recognizes as a marriage. This is where the fight is – not really with churches. I think the “church fight” has muddled the argument and governments are hiding behind that instead of saying that state and religion should be seperated. You should fight for what you believe in – for your church to define it as between a man and a woman. But that can’t play out in state or country law – what is the justification for that? To end: I argue that the state should say that they recognize marriage as a union between two indidivuals no matter what their gender might be. At the same time churches should have the right to decide who they marry under the roof of their god. And any gay church should also then have the right to only marry gay couples. That is the act of marriage and not the state definition and acceptance of marriage.
June 13, 2009 at 7:26 am
I’m all for gay marriage in the civil sense, but they shouldn’t be allowed to marry in a church or any other religious building without the permission of the relevant religious authority IMO. I confess i know little about this bill, but i see no reason at all why “the people” should decide anyway.